I congratulated my Doctor friend on his upcoming retirement. He was pushing 70 and I thought he’d be excited to have some time to enjoy life. Instead, he said, “This is the worst thing that could happen to me.” He was miserable about it. And he looked it. The idea of retirement had aged him […]
You Make A Difference
You Make A Difference – Never Underestimate Your Power There’s a story by Loren Eisley from his 16 page essay “Star Thrower,” about a man walking along a beach. He saw a boy standing where a bunch of starfish have washed up on the shore. The boy was picking up the starfish, one at a time, and […]
How Badly Do You Want To Achieve Something?
When I was a child, I used to pray for things. I wanted a new bicycle so I prayed for it. I prayed a lot for that bicycle but I never got it. As a child, I thought that one used prayer to pray to receive things, to ask for certain outcomes and to meet […]
The New Addiction – The Need to be Right
I grew up in a household where my parents would sometimes fight. At times it was the usual screaming and yelling, others it was more knock-down-drag-out but fighting just the same. My aunt used to ask my mother why she fought so hard with my dad and she answered something I will never forget. She […]
How To Get Free When “They” Don’t Change
How can I get free from negative emotions? I’ve heard it said that when I point a finger at someone else, I still have three fingers pointed back at me. In other words, when I see something in someone else I don’t like, I have to remember, “if you spot it, you got it!” […]
The Unusual Gifts From Grace
Man I stepped in it. I didn’t mean to. Who ever does? I mean, who goes knowingly into the fire to get burned by the reaction of someone else? No one except maybe someone who’s a masochist. But I sure did. And I got the full weight of the backlash which was not pretty. What […]
How to Overcome Resentment That Won’t Quit
I‘ve heard that resentment feels like urinating down your own leg. It’s warm at first, but then it gets cold, wet and uncomfortable. Or, you can say, that resentment is like taking poison into your body and waiting for the other person to die. Either way, resentment it’s not good for us. It hurts us […]
The Value in Learning Another’s Perspective?
My mom once taught me about the value of hearing another’s perspective. She said, “imagine two people are standing and facing one another. There is a copy of Time magazine between them. Both agree that the magazine is Time Magazine. One person is describing what he sees as the front cover, the other person is […]